For when relationships feel complicated, you find yourself putting everyone else first, or you're ready to understand the patterns that keep showing up in your life.
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I'm a qualified counsellor and the person behind Relating Differently.
I work with women who are experiencing difficulties in their relationships, struggling with their confidence or self-esteem, or finding themselves stuck in patterns they don't quite understand.
My approach is primarily person-centred, which means I believe you're the expert on your own experiences. I'm not here to tell you what to do or make decisions for you. Instead, we'll work together to explore what's going on for you, understand your feelings and make sense of the things that might be holding you back.
I know that talking about personal things isn't always easy, particularly with someone you've only just met. There's no pressure to share everything straight away, and we can work at a pace that feels comfortable for you.
I also draw on other therapeutic approaches where appropriate, depending on what you need and what feels helpful to you.
For me, counselling isn't about changing who you are. It's about getting to know yourself better, understanding your needs and finding ways to move forward that feel right for you.
Sometimes it's difficult to pinpoint exactly what's bothering us. You might know something doesn't feel right, but struggle to explain why. Or perhaps you've noticed yourself falling into the same patterns and want to understand what's behind them.
You don't need to have everything figured out before coming to counselling.
Whether you're experiencing difficulties in your relationship, struggling with trust, feeling insecure or noticing patterns that keep repeating, counselling can help you explore how you relate to others and what you need from your relationships.
Do you find yourself putting everyone else's needs before your own? Perhaps saying no feels uncomfortable, or you worry about disappointing people. We can explore where these patterns come from and what healthier boundaries might look like for you.
If you're often doubting yourself, comparing yourself to others or being particularly hard on yourself, counselling can offer an opportunity to explore how you see yourself and what might be affecting your confidence.
Perhaps you spend a lot of time worrying about things that haven't happened, replaying conversations or looking for reassurance. We can explore what's behind those worries and how they're affecting your everyday life.
The end of a relationship, changes in your circumstances or uncertainty about the future can bring up a lot of different emotions. Counselling gives you space to process those experiences and work out what comes next.
You don't need to be going through a crisis to benefit from counselling. Sometimes you simply want to understand yourself better, explore your feelings or make sense of why you respond to certain situations the way you do.
Starting counselling can feel a little daunting, especially if you've never done it before. You might not know what to talk about, where to start or even how to put what you're feeling into words and that's absolutely fine!
My approach is primarily person-centred, which means our sessions are led by you and what feels important to explore. There's no set agenda and you don't need to come prepared with something specific to talk about.
Sometimes we'll explore what's happening in your life right now. Other times, we might look at past experiences, relationship patterns or beliefs you've developed about yourself.
I may ask questions, offer reflections or introduce different ways of looking at things, but we'll always work collaboratively. I'm not here to tell you how you should feel or what decisions you should make.
Before booking your first counselling session, I offer a free 20-minute online consultation.
It's an opportunity for us to have a chat about what brings you to counselling, what you're hoping to get from it and how I work.
You can also ask me any questions you might have. There's no obligation to book afterwards.
Our first session is an opportunity to get to know each other a little better. We'll go through some practical information, including confidentiality and how our sessions will work.
We'll also begin exploring what has brought you to counselling and what you'd like support with.
There's no expectation to share everything straight away.
Sessions last 50 minutes and take place online via a video call, so you can attend from somewhere private and comfortable.
We can work together for a shorter period or longer term, depending on your needs. We'll review how things are going as we work together.
50-minute online session
20-minute online conversation, with no obligation to book.
Appointments are available during evenings and weekends.
You don't need to be experiencing a crisis or have a particular diagnosis to come to counselling. If there's something you'd like to talk about, understand better or work through, counselling could be helpful. We can discuss what you're looking for during your free consultation.
Sessions are usually weekly, although we can discuss what works best for you and your circumstances.
There's no set number. Some people come for a few sessions to work through something specific, while others prefer longer-term counselling. We can review how things are going as we work together.
Confidentiality is an important part of counselling. What you share in our sessions is treated confidentially, although there are some circumstances where I may need to share information, such as concerns about serious harm or where disclosure is legally required. I'll explain confidentiality and its limits before we begin working together.
No, I currently work exclusively online, so you can attend sessions from anywhere in the UK, provided you're somewhere private and have a reliable internet connection.
Please give at least 48 hours' notice. With 48 hours or more, you can cancel or rearrange. Cancellations between 24 and 48 hours before a session receive a 50% refund; cancellations with less than 24 hours' notice are non-refundable. Full terms will be included in your counselling agreement.
Sessions are paid for in advance. I'll provide payment details when we arrange your appointment.
If you're thinking about starting counselling or would like to arrange a free 20-minute consultation, you're welcome to get in touch.
You don't need to explain everything in your first message. Just a few details are enough to get started.
Please avoid including sensitive personal or medical information in your initial enquiry. You can read my Privacy Policy before submitting the form.
Online counselling for women across the UK · Evening and weekend appointments
I'm Montserrat (Mons), a qualified counsellor with a Level 4 Diploma in Counselling Practice.
I'm an individual member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP), and my work is guided by the BACP Ethical Framework.
I attend regular clinical supervision and undertake continuing professional development to support my practice.
I'm registered with the Information Commissioner's Office (ICO) and hold professional indemnity insurance.
Any personal information you share when contacting Relating Differently will be used to respond to your enquiry and, if you decide to begin counselling, to provide and manage your sessions.
Counselling sessions are confidential, subject to certain legal, ethical and safeguarding exceptions. These will be explained before we begin working together.